Hmm... what isn't healthy is him not being able to handle any kind of feedback from you whatsoever, and turning it around onto you with accusations, yelling, screaming and what seems like name calling. That is abusive behavior..... what else raises a flag for me is his jealousy and insecurity, and what seems to be a bit of controlling behavior towards you --- and the fact that you are being held back by him in many ways... I also don't like him not reciprocating and showing that he appreciates you holding the financial burden for both of you.