Thanks. I find it hard to find compassion on issues that most people have handled themselves and that I cry over things that I could have handled better. Itīs another thing to cry over someone who died for example, then itīs beyond my control and itīs something final, itīll never change.
I also think I find it a bit embarrassing and "too much" as in relation to my T, she partly has what I lack; a job and a partner and itīs only 10+ years between us.
Youīre right I also grieve, I grieve things that were better when I were a child and I grieve that I donīt have better relations with my family now as an adult. I agree itīs a good sign and especially in therapy as it shows trust in the T and that something "happens" in therapy. Even if crying isnīt nessecary for all clients of course.
I know itīs inevitable to cry and to feel things in therapy but lately I feel noone else had sat there with me and see me cry, noone besides a therapist and that makes me feel it's not completely normal.
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Originally Posted by cinnamon_roll
Been there. It does get better. Eventually.
Still, being in the middle of it really sucks. It's painful. It's unnerving. It's exhausting.
Can you try and find some more compassion with yourself? You're feeling a lot of pain right now. Maybe you're allowing yourself to feel this pain for the first time ever. So yes, this can be unsettling. And confusing. But crying is a pretty "normal" reaction when you're feeling pain. And maybe you're grieving as well, for the things you never had growing up.
I don't want to sound cold or unempathetic. But feeling the pain is actually a "good" sign - because you're allowing yourself to feel this. Up to now you held it mostly in, I guess. Maybe you *knew* you were sad, but you didn't really *feel* the sadness and the grief. Allowing yourself to actually experience those emotions is a step in the right direction, I feel. At least it was for me.
And please, don't feel silly for crying. It makes you human. And that's a good thing.
All the best, c_r
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