I’m an INTJ. The NTJ part fits okay with the doctor thing but sometimes having to deal with people all day makes me thoroughly exhausted (especially since I have such a strong drive to NOT be like the stereotypical ***hole doctors that I had to deal with in my training—I spend a lot of my energy on emotional labor.)

Of course, one might argue that I intentionally chose a job that requires some degree of emotional intimacy because I struggle with this in my personal life... so really I have only myself (and my dismissive attachment style) to blame.

One thing that makes me feel good though is that sometimes the emotional labor actually helps someone, or at least makes them feel slightly less ******—I took care of this super crotchety guy in the hospital a few weeks ago—dude hates and mistrusts doctors. Spent a LOT of time with him explaining about his disease and why we were doing various tests and stuff. He got sick and had to be readmitted a few days ago and asked the admitting doc “hey is that chihirichild doc around? I liked her. She was no-bull***, smart too.” The admitting doc called to tell me because she was so tickled.