I agree with echos, consistency. My T is ridiculously consistent in session. I crave it even if I don't necessarily "want" an attachment with her. We've had our bumps in the road, but she takes it all in stride. She apologizes when she needs to, and she never feels like I am doing it to her (being extremely frustrating/never making eye contact or any show i want to be there at all), and knows that it is something I struggle with. She thinks my premature birth (extreme prematurity) started me off on a bad path attachement-wise, and since my parents were teenagers still, they couldn't give what I needed.

She doesn't work with me on attachment per se, but I do think she hopes that I will see her as a safe, secure person, and slowly warm up to her. In reality, I really like her, but therapy is very difficult, and talking about feelings is very difficult, so I shut down really easily.