I have an experience with my husband of 32 years. He also has a very high intelligence. His intelligence was with math mostly. He always excelled in school & was boared with the classes. The sad thing is what kind of person he has turned into....starting with highschool.

He always thought he was so much smarter than the teachers & so in college, he would blow off the classes that were easy & he wasn't interested in & the ones he KNEW that he knew more than the teacher.

At work, he would get boared with a job if he wasn't challenged by it & then would get real pissy with the managers if they didn't do things the way he KNEW was right.

Now, he has been DX'ed with adult ADD at the age of 55. I honestly think they finally labeled him with something so he would understand that he is disabled because he wouldn't accept the other ideas why.....BECAUSE HE KNOWS BETTER.

He can't even explain his thinking about things or why he does things. He is out of touch with life & people. Honestly, he has been this way since we met 34 years ago & these things I saw, but was told he would grow up & mature......HE NEVER DID & now I'm paying the price.....it's a high price for a wife to pay. I don't really know him....I can't get him to talk, to discuss anything, or to express his feelings about anything.....he says he doesn't have any feelings or thoughts about anything & just lives in life & is controlled by everything that goes on around him. Then he says, he wished someone would have forced him to think about these things when he was younger.....believe me, I tried for 32 years. I was always throwing questions at him about why he did something or why he said something & he always refused to answer.

I really don't know the answer, but you need to make sure your son is challenged, but that he also in touch with life around him....don't let him get away with withdrawing or not answering your questions or expressing his feelings....pull it out of him anyway you can....if you need help .....a child counselor or something.....I wish I knew the answer, but to end up with an adult that is so not adjusted to life is scarry.....someone who is so intelligent & they know it can be so stupid about everything except math (which doesn't make any difference to daily living) is so sad & a waste of a life & a marriage (in this case). The misery is causes the person they are married to is the worst part (I am not dealing with it well at all) & am so angry I end up hating him for the way he has treated me.

Mind you, I also am intelligent (no genius) but got my BS in Computer Science & has a career as an aerospace engineer for 15 years. I knew I needed to marry an intelligent person which was what attracted me to him in the first place. My gut feeling before I got married was that there were problems & they have only become worse over the years when I thought he would mature & get better.

Don't let your son run a path this way....keep an eye on developing the things that are meaningful to a fully adjusted life....not just challenging him in the things he is good at or what his IQ is good at.......people who are very intelligent can have ADD....most of them actually do. Many with a very high IQ are also tunneled into an area where the IQ is high & not good at other things. Intelligent people are a challenge.......I just wish I had the answer.....whether a private school or what the answer is.....but keep looking & the right answer will be provided. It's when we stop looking or don't bother in the first place, that the children suffer & so do their relationships all their lives.

Debbie