Yes, we have had alters that have been "absent" for a long time. One who took care of everyday life things hasn't been around for a long time. We are muddling through without her but we are not good at the things that she used to do, like cooking an housework.

I don't believe in the concept of a host and neither does my therapist. It doesn't apply to us at any rate. We never had one whole integrated sense of self. Babies don't come into the world with their personality already formed. They form their personality between birth and six years of age, based on their experiences. What formed based on our experiences was.... us.