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Originally Posted by TeaVicar?
I keep talking about this with my T. Every time there's a break, inconsistency or even lack of attunement, it's back to square one. I get reminded about my past and my developed reactions to disappointment, I get reminded that he is 'human' after all but I also feel as though I am continuously replaying this torturous love/rejection pattern. I fail to see how therapy can help with this and I feel very angry that I was encouraged to open up and trust the 'process' - yes, this reflects my past but how is it different, how does the outcome change so that my heart and faith in humanity remains intact?
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this was my exact dilemma too with trying to work on the attachment with my ex-T. plus the fact that my trust was always jeopardised because of his lack of continuous consistency. as i stated prior, i just could not fathom how i was suppose to heal my deep attachment wounds when the relationship with my T was nothing more than, as you so perfectly stated, 'replaying a torturous love/rejection pattern'. and each time i doubted and challenge my T on this very topic, he got to play the 'i'm only human card' while i got assigned 'you are the broken wounded soul who is suppose to be figuring out how to fix this dilemma with what little i offer you'. that is one reason why i asked if my husband could start coming to my sessions and be more involved. if i could not get those needs met by my T, at least he could help my husband and me figure out how to address meeting those needs of mine together.