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Old Jun 18, 2018, 09:24 AM
SarahSweden SarahSweden is offline
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Thanks. For how long have you seen your T? Itīs just recently I began to cry, for several months I never cried and I felt we sometimes discussed more about the therapeutic process than emotional things. Would you like to cry in therapy or do you feel embarrassed about it?

I donīt think having no experiences from intimate relations or sex has only to do with depression, when in midst of depression you donīt feel like looking for a partner but if one doesnīt have a chronic depression there are more to it than that. What does your T say to you about intimacy, does she give you advice or do you work more on an emotional level?

I think itīs very embarrassing to talk about sex and lack of such experiences as my T is married and sheīs more than ten years older than me and of course she has rather a lot experiences from it herself. At the same time you doesnīt talk to a T and ask her about her (his) own experiences.

I think it can be healthy to cry and it also seems that several people cry from a lot of reasons in therapy.


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Originally Posted by velcro003 View Post
SS: I rarely cry, and have never cried in therapy, BUT I do understand what you mean. In some ways I am similar.

I am 37 and while I had a few boyfriends in my young teenage years, I haven't dated anyone since I was 22. I am still a virgin. Except one high school boyfriend, I was never serious about anyone, and that HS boyfriend was a very young "love," or what I thought of it at the time.

So, while I may have more "experience" in that area than you, I get it. I also did not experience any abuse or any overt trauma growing up as well. I also am depressed, but "nothing" else. While I am lucky I have a job and like it (and it is one thing that I DO feel lucky for), I also feel liek my T can't really help me in being an adult like the rest of the "normal" population.

I talk about it frequently. She argues back that it is the depression talking. It is hard, and I do agree with others that it is healthy you can cry about this stuff. I can't.