Hi,
Im looking for assessment and advice for my unusual relationship with my mother.

Here’s some background about this:

Mother is divorced while I was 1 year old, and never saw my father. so i grew up with a single mother and my grandma.

Few years ago i moved to the UK, away from my home country, to study and -and stayed for work.

Here’s a brief look at my relationship with my mother:

She expects me to talk to her on the phone each day, at least once.
If one day goes by without me calling her, she gets angry and mad at me and she blames me foe not asking about her.

Every year, she pressures me to go to my home country, twice, and stay as long as possible.
No matter how long I stay, she always says she’s not satisfied although usually my stay is between 3 weeks and 4 weeks, each visit (twice a year).

She constantly asks me to leave my girlfriend because we’ve been together for longer than she likes.

(This is not the first time she asks me to break up with a girl I’ve been with foe longer than a year.)

She met my current girlfriend which ive been dating for 3 years, but she never ever asks me about her although we talk daily on the phone.

If I ever travel for few days with my girl friend or my friends, my mother complains how i could have traveled to see her instead.

She tells me, I should not get married until my mid 40s and I should marry a 20 - 25 year old at that time.

She says that I should not get married until my 40’s so that I can be free and travel and do what I want and that getting married will take all this away from me.

When I invited my girlfriend to come to my home country for only 4 days (out of the 21 days that im going there). She kept on complaining about her coming saying that she barely have time to see me for 20 days, and my girlfriend is taking away my days from her.

She always asks me to take her out for dinners, or to bars, and clubs so we can have fun together.

She never accounts for my feelings or consider them. For example she doesn’t co aider what I need, or what I want. She hangs up the phone regularly while talking to me because she is angry at me. Etc...

I always feel i need her validation and trying to make her angry at me.

I hope this brief summary is enough to get the idea of the relationship we have.

My question:
Do you think this is a healthy mother-son relationship? How do you assess this relationship?

What do you think is the issue here, and what should be done about it ?

How does that affect me as a person.

Thanks a lot for your help !