I am meeting another Japanese man for coffee tomorrow morning. He lives in the next town near me. He is very talkative and nice. He has many stories to tell. He is older and an investment banker. He is self-employed and owns his business. I like his personality so far. But, I will have to meet him to see if we get along. I am hoping for the best.


The other Japanese man no longer talks to me. He is strange as heck. I am happy to have let him go for now. I am glad to have found out his true nature which is he is not my friend but a user. I was nice to him but told him not to worry about my asking me to help me because I really don't need his help anymore. He has been avoiding me ever since I asked him for help. He acted as if he would be supportive of me so I thought asking him to help me would not be a problem. From now on, I will not ask for help unless I am really sure we are friends. He wanted to learn English and was using me for free meals and lessons. I understand why he never married. But, this is his loss, not mine. I did not ask for money nor anything materialistic but for help in just signing a letter stating he could vouch for my character and that I would be responsible for my affairs while in Japan. I don't know what the big deal is but he seemed to squirm when I asked him. I thought he would be nice to me but he was not. He is a typical user-friendly user- always seeking to take advantage of others.


The new man I'm seeing tomorrow speaks really good English and has been to America many times. I am happy for him. He seems more comfortable with himself and confident. I like his style. I am not going to ask him for a character verification this time and will ask someone who has been a long-time friend of the family.

This letter for character verification is a formality not anything binding legally. But, I need it. So, I did not want to bother my long-time friend because I have not seen her for awhile. But, I will go visit her when I have time. And, I am not going to ask anybody anymore for help here unless it is absolutely necessary. I realize some Japanese people are known to be very cold to strangers and only nice to their family and friends in their circle. Thus, I was not surprised by the previous man's response but he was sure obvious about his purpose for me.


So, tomorrow I will see what happens. I look forward to tomorrow and hope we get along. He has so many stories to tell. I find him fascinating.

Also, since he told me his illnesses, I told him mine. He still wants to see me. It was like well here we go again I thought. But, he was really nice about it. I think he is understanding. He first told me about his illnesses because he got sick in America and was hospitalized but had a wonderful experience recovering while there. I thought if he is going to disclose his illnesses that I would just tell him mine and get it out of the way, so to speak. Some people I never tell and with others it is not so hard to be myself. He was very empathetic and understanding about my situation as I was about his. So, we are honest with each other and have an understanding about each other's situation.