Echoes, hunny,
I agree with Perna, who said, "Having a PhD doesn't necessarily a "together" person make! It's just schooling, not life experience."
The way this woman responded to you suggests something almost sinister to me. If, for example, her role is to be a counselor and support person, then she should have encouraged you in your efforts to decrease your time on the computer and get more "real life' experiences. Or, even as a true friend, she should have encouraged you, no matter how much personal stuff you have shared.

I'm concerned that this woman's role is to provide support, and yet she has acted this way. You are feeling pain because of it, and that is just not acceptable. I can give you several examples of online friendships with people with whom I've corresponded in very similar fashion, but when they chose to decrease our contact, no matter how much it had meant to me, I was okay with it. Their circumstances were changing, and they wanted to move on and decrease contact, or maybe I was the one who wanted this, but it did not diminish the value I held for these people, and I am okay with hearing from them every couple of months or even less. This is the nature of online relationships.

This reminds me of a movie I watched not too long ago. I can't remember the name of it, but I'll look it up, and repost about it.

You were honest with your online friend, and, in my opinion, her response to you was inappropriate.

Love
Patty

P.S. The movie I was thinking of: NOTES ON A SCANDAL, which is, of course, about a scandalous act, having nothing to do with the subject of your post. I was impressed by the dynamics of the two female characters, portrayed by the excellent acting of Judy Dench and Kate Blanchett. If you haven't seen it, I do recommend it. It shows how controlling one person in power can become over another.