Sounds like he just refuses to grow up, if he can't compromise this is futile.

You already have up alot for this guy I would think how much more are you willing to give up before you can't get it back?

Honestly if he can't see he has issues and won't change I can't see what future there is.

Do you want to marry him as he is and do you feel he could compromise on child rearing?

Someone said "mooching" and that's,what it,sounds like, he is doing.
I wonder if his,anger stems from you being the bigger wage earner? A pride thing?

Either way I would say he either agrees to go to counselling or mediation. If he says no, you have your answer.