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Originally Posted by maybeblue
I can absolutely relate to this. I am the exact same way. I really, really want to email because I feel like I'm going to burst if I don't, but then I feel guilty and am terrified that she is going to be angry at me. And waiting for a response is the worst.
Have you talked to him about your fear? One of the things that my therapist does now that I really appreciate is that she will email me a very short response saying something like "Thank you for the email, I'm looking forward to talking with you about it next week." It takes her maybe 5 minutes and saves me days of agony. But even though this anxiety seems to be very, very common with clients, I'm not sure all therapists get it.
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Thank you for this. I haven’t explicitly talked to him about it. I thought that him mentioning that it’s ok to email would be enough, but apparently it isn’t since I still get really anxious about replies. I don’t know if I can request that though, I feel like he’s already doing lots for me by, for example keeping me in session for longer than he’s supposed to. I don’t want to seem ungrateful. I know he probably wouldn’t think that, but I worry so much about doing something wrong, something that would make him dislike me, that I avoid any sort of boundary talk. Maybe I’ll muster up the courage to do it, but I don’t know.