esthersvirtue - thats a pretty profound statement. i guess then that the only way to ever not be hurt, is to never let anyone in. its on an individual basis whether we decide whether its more important to feel love, or to keep yourself safe from hurtful words. and if you feel that its more important to be loved, then we need to take careful consideration as to who we allow in. so it all goes back to being on a one-by-one standard. no one can tell you what a ***** is.