hi DanceEngine,

You've written a lot about this man and have gotten some excellent feedback from many members of this site. I am curious though --- what were you expecting when you contacted him again? To pick things up again? For him to tell you he misses you and loves you?

I don't think you have fully grasped the fact that this man is a liar and a cheater. He cheated on his wife with you, he discarded you after the affair needed to end and you had indicated as much, he moved on and went online to find others....... others to sneak around with. This man is NOT a good man, but I think you still hold him on some sort of pedestal, despite his cheating ways and behavior. How can a person be a good person if they are sleeping with one person, and telling another that they love them? His wife? This is not a genuine person.

Loneliness can do that to a person...... make them miss someone, despite them being bad for them, and I think it's just loneliness on your part. Please do pursue therapy and other interests and fill your life up with things you enjoy. If you do, you will forget that this man ever existed.