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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
As for the UPR, I know this isn't the same thing, but months ago, the topic of unconditional love came up. And he said he didn't believe in that. I was like, "But you're a parent, how could you not?" And he said there were things his kid could do (like awful, evil things) that would make him disown him. That kind of threw me a bit (being a parent myself). More recently, he said the thing about not buying into UPR. Which did bother me a bit. I know he prides himself on being honest, but sometimes he just takes the honesty thing too far...
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I can easily see why that would be the response you wanted.
Except, in like the first or second session, my T said that there was nothing that would make her think less of me. She worked in a prison for some time, so I think that is what she was thinking of. When I sort of talked around my self-harm and why I do it, the first question she asked was "Well,have you ever murdered someome?" I told her "Uhhh...noooo...." and she said my shame seemed so great, that she had to ask.
The thing is, she was genuinely curious. She has told me before that she sees ALL behavior as a symptom (I think she holds a different account to socio/psycho paths), and she finds compassion in all of it.
It blows my mind, bc I can not be compassionate to someone who is in the left lane, driving ENTIRELY too slow for my liking (and the speed limit)
Soo, what my long-winded post is trying to say is, it isn't so unreasonable to find UPR for people. ESPECIALLY your own children! If I had a child and found out they were something that was "un-curable" ie pedophile or something of the like, I would want them to get help. IF help meant prison, I'd do it. That doesn't mean I wouldn't still love my child, bc, he/she is MY child.
Anyway. I am getting too philosophical. Sorry