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Originally Posted by caterpillarinct
My best friend's son died of an opiod overdose 15 months ago. He was 26. At the time, I stupidly repeated to her what my boyfriend said to me "how did she not know".
He had passed in his bedroom perhaps a day earlier. She will not let it go. People, at the minute they hear, don't realize he is an adult and are doing their separate things. Obviously you are not keeping tract of them at that age. He was not accusing her of anything. He is a kind and empathetic person.
But she "holds a grudge" as she says. It has been difficult for me for my friend to keep hating my boyfriend. Now she has said she doesn't want me to talk about him. I think I have to let her go as my friend, and it makes me very sad.
Thanks for "listening".
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I don't quite understand how you could let a best friend go (when she lost a son not that long ago) because she was hurt by what your boyfriend said. I have to admit that repeating what your boyfriend said about your best friend to be insensitive. She lost her son barely over a year ago. That's a rough situation. I don't think any parent imagines burying their child.
Giving her an outlet to heal (like what was suggested above) is a helpful thing. But I think space is needed before addressing the situation of reconciling your friend with your boyfriend. I think cutting your friend off is quite harsh.