The op is from a different culture where marriage is important and considered part of a woman's life. I live in Japan where some women are still taught to find their prince in shining armor and marry to have children still. Not all women are taught this of course, but the culture is different and values are different. I'm from America and totally understand your opinion about finding self-worth from within, not from a man or another person. But, this is a cultural perspective which is taught by society or by one's upbringing. Thus, I would not be so harsh about judging the op and her desire to find the right man to get married. It is about cultural values and society's norms. I totally agree with your opinion, but, at the same time, understand the op's angst about not finding her perfect love.