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Originally Posted by Echos Myron redux
How do you know she is going on a trip with her bf? Did she tell you that? It's all well and good saying it's not about her, when a disclosure like that kind of makes it about her. Especially when you have been so badly triggered around bf stuff with her in the past.
I'm not sure whether or not this is useful to you, but I want to say your feelings about her and the relationship are normal and common; I don't always like your T's mixed messages regarding closeness/distance in the relationship. Please remember there's nothing wrong with the way you feel.
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Thank you. I knew we had to skip next week. I asked if she was going away. She didn't offer to tell me but answered my question. Then I asked "with HIM?" She said yes. I always ask and she tells me the truth. My T believes in closeness. That's how she does therapy. But she's always kept it professional. We have talked about it for 8 years, how I want it to be about her and it's not. I've done this with Ts whether they disclosed or not.