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Originally Posted by Vibrating Obsidian
You may not be wrong.
I once made a thread about being compensated for damage done to me by someone who was supposed to care for me. I did not have any intent to abuse, but to get what is right for me
The therapist with whom I talked about this completely disregarded the possibility that I have gone through abuse, and instead chose to look at me in a dismissive manner - "Why do you think you deserved to be compensated?", she asked. I told her and she asked again, regardless if that value of mine has anything to do with people or not. So I told her about my skills. I acted compliantly, I do not see where this is my problem. The therapist after some time asked the same question, "Why do you think you deserve that?", as if I've said nothing until now. They were the same therapist with the sarcastic empathetic nod. I left
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I see how frustrating this must have been for you.
I can't write more as I don't know what exactly happened there and I don't even think it's important to analyse it at the moment. What I think is important is that the incident illustrates what others here are saying. That it seems you've got some problems with accepting different opinions and interpret them as attack.
Don't get mé wrong, I have that as well, often I feel that the person with a different opinion or constructive criticism hates me and I feel I need to protect myself. It comes from my childhood.
The point of the therapy might be working on this. On realising that different opinion doesn't mean attack or hate. Rather, thinking about different perspectives might be the way to improvement. It doesn't automatically mean you're giving up or that you're being "dominated" by others.