Most depressed people need their space and want to be left alone at times. When I was depressed, I did not want to be with anybody. I was tired and had no energy. Talking to someone became a chore. I would give him time and space to recover. I would not judge him during this time but be supportive and understanding. Smother love is not love and suffocating. I would just let him be until he can be himself again. I am hoping you both are seeking professional help for your so-called depression. Talk therapy or counseling might help you both. I would not interpret his actions while being depressed as being his usual self. Thus, giving him time and space to get over his depression may be the best thing you can do at this time while seeking professional help in the meantime. Patience and understanding are essential now.

Also, I would focus on yourself too. I would try to do things that make you happy and take care of yourself first as a priority. If you aren't happy, there is no possibility that focusing on making him happy is going to make you happy. It is wise to find happiness for yourself by focusing on your needs then when you are able to do this, you can focus on giving yourself to others. I know how you feel about thinking that his happiness will be yours too. It is not healthy to think that making others happy will make you happy. Your happiness should be your priority and should come from within you. I don't know if I'm making sense but I was like you once and thought making others happy would make me happy. It never did. Now, I focus on myself and find things to do for myself. And, I am able to be supportive of others now because my happiness is not dependent on others making me happy. Of course, I feel good when I can make others smile but the essential core of happiness comes from within me. I hope this makes sense?