One thing I notice about the list in the OP is that a lot of it depends on perceptions about the T's emotions, like you perceive the T to be trying to dominate, that their empathy is fake or their smile is sarcastic, etc. But these are perceptions/interpretations of the T's behavior that may or may not be correct. You might have a tendency (as I do) to perceive people as feeling negatively toward you when they actually do not, if you have been treated badly in the past or if you feel badly about yourself.

Another thing—it seems like if you understand therapy or what the therapist is "doing," you think that means therapy can't be effective. I don't think this is true. Why not go along with the T's "manipulations" so to speak and see what happens?