i have this habit of getting immediately defense and *****y (i get this awful tone) anytime someone makes any kind of an unpleasant/critical/constructive criticism comment to me. logically i know that this is ridiculous/an overreaction/not conducive to any kind of healthy communication, but i cant help immediately getting that FEELING....that fight or flight...that anger. i hate the person it makes me. i hate the way it makes me behave. i know i have anger issues and i dont know why, and i guess thats for a different thread. but how do you calm down IN THAT MOMENT? when you're irrational, when you cant think straight, when youre literally so worked up its not even safe to go take a drive or a walk? when youre expected to be calm and act like an adult and you cant just go and take a 10 minute "time out?"