I’m quite familiar with Phish. Along the same vein, my ex-fiancé (from way back) and I used to go to DMB shows quite a lot because he was kind of a groupie, having actually traveled with them the previous summer to hook up to their sound board to record bootlegs. Also, he was friendly with one of the band members, and we got in for free. It was a good time. Then he decided that he was over that little passion and didn’t want to go anymore. I still really liked them, so it became an issue when they’d come within reasonable driving distance and JG didn’t want to go (I have too many J names in my past). But it was his decision, his reasons, and just because I didn’t have a free ticket wasn’t actually preventing me from taking another friend.

It’s hard not to feel guilty for how your bf feels, but you simply can’t go. There isn’t anything to be done about it. He has the choice to go on his own, he chooses not to. Therefore, it isn’t your fault that he is upset, here. He’s making his own choice. And it’s not like Phish is going to suddenly stop touring and you’ll miss the boat. It’s Phish. But, at some point adult responsibilities have to take precedence over our desire to be free and be part of the hippie culture I’m having my own issues reconciling that lately. And I’ve been an adult a long long time.