Former T, yes. Current T, I haven't made up my mind. She's said several times that I can say anything to her, and I have no concerns about confronting her if the need arose. I can ask her anything personal--I'm just not usually interested in doing so. What I'm undecided about is gory details of abuse; I'm not confident that she could tolerate it. And I don't want to have to take care of her. But since I don't feel much sense of needing to get into it, it hasn't posed a problem.