I was recently told to "ghost" someone...

Here's what happened...
We met online, I won't say where, but it was instant chemistry. We talked mostly every day on the phone and through texts and Skype.. My parents (especially my mom) absolutely hated him. Whenever I would leave my phone laying around, she would read through my texts and she found out that me and the man I met online were sexting each other. (Mind you, I'm a grown *** woman so I can do what I want) That was what made her hate him at first...

I respect my parents (I still live with them) but I didn't appreciate them going through my things and it was a major trust violation.

Anyway, I told my friends about this guy that I met and they all said he sounded suspicious and that I should be careful. It got to the point where I started to fall in love ( I think, anyway) with him. My mom was very upset and she said something about him didn't seem right. My friends told me the same thing and one of them suggested that I do a background search on him, just to be safe.

So I did, and his background check came back spotty... He was charged with domestic violence, pleaded guilty, and spent some jail time. I was so shocked, but I loved this man so much that I defended him saying that , "maybe it was in self defense!" or "maybe his last girlfriend started it?" I am, myself, a victim of abuse and I was shocked and scaring myself that I was so deeply in love with this man that I would blame a VICTIM of abuse.

I decided to give him a chance to be honest with me, to tell me that it was in self defense or that he was wrongly charged. But he just told me that whoever told me that he was charged with domestic abuse was lying.... So.... The police officer, who has no reason to lie to me.... Lied? I had a hard time believing that an officer of the law would make up a file about him just in case I, one day, decided to look it up. His records were in the public database. I couldn't keep lying to myself. He lied to me that he never hit anyone an had the gall to tell me that someone was lying about him.

The fighting in my home got worse, my parents were telling me that he was no good, that he only wanted to hurt me.. I didn't believe them, still don't. I told him this and his attitude was like, "Do it anyway." He didn't seem to care that my parents were protective of me, and he didn't seem to care that he was literally splitting me apart from my friends and family. I started feeling like I had to choose between him and my family.

Here's where my friend told me to "ghost" him. She said, "it's not fair that he's lying to you". I can't bring myself to cut contact so suddenly like that. I still have feelings for him, but being lied to about something as serious as *domestic abuse*, I can't ignore that. If he had told me the truth and said that he admitted to the abuse and that he was sorry, I wouldn't even dream of "ghosting" him...

But now that he lied to me, I question every little thing he's ever told me.
I don't want to "ghost" him... is there any other way I can cut contact without hurting his feelings?