I want to point to the fact that you have some self awareness that the closeness you yearn for is perhaps not appropriate. I really commend you for this; that you know this is something to work on. I agree with a poster above though that your therapist isn't taking on a 'hands off' approach to your therapy. Disclosing her personal life to you only feeds that sense of closeness you feel you require. I would raise this point with her soon. Tell her that you are in fact troubled by the mixed messages.