I believe that some people are better off alone. I am sorry that I ever married my husband. Looking at his personality, he is much better off being completely alone. The only type of person that ever could have had a successful marriage with him is someone who didn't need a marriage to be a partnership.....someone who was willing to let the other person control everything but be willing to let him completely mess up everything he touches & destroy the relationship financially because of his immature way of handling expenses & debt.

He is a very nice person....he does nice things....but that's the extent of what he gives to a marriage. I always felt that I was having to fight to get him to do the things that truely mattered in the marriage, like cooperate to get things done. He never would communicate with me & would hide information about things....I think it was his way of trying to be controlling. With that, there was no way that I wanted to have any close sexual relationship with him.....I was always fighting, so loving wasn't a feeling I could even find for him.

He was always so immature, & most of the time I felt like him Mother....so there was no way I could ever feel close with him.

This was tolerated for so long because we both had good paying careers.....once that ended, there was nothing left to hold the marriage together.

I don't know if there would have ever been the right someone for me either. I expected a lot out of a partner....& I expected to be allowed to be myself also besides being a partner. Finding a person that would have fit my needs was probably impossible & he for sure should never have been married at least not to anyone who wanted someone who was a responsible adult.
Debbie