Hello staci: I'm sorry you are in this most difficult situation. I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral. I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

I can't be of any specific help with regard to your concerns. I suspect your recourse, in a situation such as this, is to do what it sounds like you've already done... call the police & get restraining orders. I don't know anything about how these sorts of things work in California. Perhaps if there are any womens' organizations in your area, particularly organizations that provide services to domestic abuse victims, these might be the best places to call. They would likely know what your options are given where you live.

The other more general option would be to contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline:

1 (800) 799-7233

Here's a link to their website:

Home | The National Domestic Violence Hotline

One thing you didn't mention is how old your son is other than that he is a teenager. If he is still a minor, there may be some state government child protective services that would have an interest in what occurred. It may be, though, that you would want to be careful about this. Once a government agency such as child protection becomes involved, you may largely lose control as far as how things are handled. At least these are my thoughts with regard to your post. My best wishes to you...