I feel like this is what my T has been trying to do as well. He's said a few times that he doesn't want me to end up on the same dependent/needy path (I'm not saying you're this way! speaking for myself here) I was on with ex-MC. And I think he struggles at times with how to allow me to talk about whatever connection or transference I have for him and how to be there for me and support me without leading me down that same path. He's trying to focus on my strengthening my outside-therapy relationships and feeling more confident and connected in them rather than becoming dependent on him. Which on a cognitive level, I respect and very much appreciate. But then on a more emotional, less rational level, it's like, "But why can't I just depend on you?"

So it sounds much like you, in trying to reconcile the emotional and more logical sides. I think both of our T's have our best interests at heart. But that doesn't mean it isn't going to hurt sometimes.