Keeping his distance like EG said which helps , but also things like not insisting on definite appointments. Early on in my therapy I would contact him for appointments rather than being each week. We discussed it recently and he said he was conscious of not trying to " pin me down ". I said I would not have done well with that , but I do better now with more regularity , so I guess I may feel safer. He respects my boundaries on what I need and want , as he recognises my boundaries have so often not been respected. Feeling safe feels a bit unsafe paradoxically , there was a recent thread about it which I discussed with my T and a good post from Ididitmyway which we worked on.