I go on dating sites too when I'm lonely. I'm not really looking for anybody in particular but like chatting. I am sorry to hear you are depressed too. I'm also depressed now. I don't think looking for a man while you are depressed is good though. It is better to sleep or go out and do things on your own an enjoy yourself while you can.


The current man I met is from a online dating site. I was not expecting anything special from him but he messaged me and we started talking. He talks so much that I just listen most of the time. He is nice and supportive of my illness. I told him about it after he told me about his illnesses. We both understand and empathize with each other. Thus, you never know who you are going to meet and when. I'd say just keep your options open and don't settle for married men anymore. I've been there too and can say single men have more to offer. They have more time and have more interests. And,as for my new man, he and I have not talked about sex or anything related to sex. We just talk about each other.And, he likes to talk about politics so I'll just listen when he talks.


I diverge about your issues. Yes, try to sleep or just do things to keep yourself busy while depressed. Going to a dating site while depressed may be distracting for awhile but if you are truly looking for a good man who is single, you need to take care of yourself and not sound so needy. I should know about sounding needy because I am. May be, you and I are both needy. We don't need to sound needy though to men we like. Also, sex should not be an issue from the beginning but may be discussed later. If a man starts talking about sex initially, then this is all he wants. Just, block them and keep looking for someone who is caring and supportive rather than a user.