Wow. She doesn’t stop! There is something wrong with her.

I think people do respond and gave you suggestions, it’s just hard to know what else to suggest. Would it be hard to prove that it’s her doing all that? I’d still talk to a lawyer and see if some type letter could be sent to her to stop harassment? It’s aggravating!

Now you do need to grieve “friendship” but I think it might be useful to acknowledge that a man you were talking to online for all those years was not who you thought he was. As soon as you finally spent time irl it turned out he was a jerk. And he didn’t become a jerk. He always has been. Heck he has STDs and won’t tell people. He has a girlfriend and cheated on her. It’s no matter if you talked online for 13 years or 3 months. He clearly knows how to present himself

Unfortunately it’s not uncommon for people to present themselves online as entirely different people than who they are. That’s why I always worry when people post on PC about relationships and friendships that they maintain strictly online. You never really know who you are talking to and how these people turn out to be. It sometimes ends way worse than your story.

Your travelled across the country to stay in his (strangers despite talking online- as you only met once before and not for a significant period of time) house ended very ugly but it could be worse. Way worse.

Technology opened so many opportunities for us but also created so many dangers. Even contacting this woman (again a stranger) online proved to be not worth it as now she won’t let go. She could be dangerous for all we know. You don’t know any of these people. Internet is awesome yet it could create unsafe situations if people aren’t careful

Do contact a lawyer and see if she could be stopped through legal channels. She is determined to drive you nuts. I’d see what lawyer has to stay. You can’t really move on if she keeps harassing you.