I believe I am fearful avoidant. We increased sessions from 1x week to 2x week so that whatever progress towards opening up in one session would carry over to the 2nd. We did the 2 sessions a week for a little over a year and about month and a half ago we added a 3rd session a week.

What I found with the 1x week was that I would feel comfortable with her by the end of the session and would be ready to tell her all my secrets for a few days and then I'd start thinking that my issues were not really issues, that I need to just get over myself... and down the path I'd go until the next week where I'd find myself again afraid to say much of substance.

We increased the sessions to 3 x week because of the intense longing as well as outside pressures leaving me feeling like I couldn't stay open to my inner-selves that the only safe place was that hour with her. And over the months of this outside pressure, I had slowly rebuilt my shell around myself and was no longer letting my innerself out.

3x a week has been different. I like it, I'm not sure it is helping yet. I am able to feel more of that innerself so, we'll have to see how this goes.