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Originally Posted by golden_eve
I have a very strong, intense need in me to stand up to abuse, to fight back and to put that person, the abuser, in their rightful place where they belong.
Even long after the relationship has ended, I still feel this intense need and I cannot let it go until I have said my peace and have stood up for myself.
I do not know where this comes from within me... but does anyone else feel the same way?
Why can't I just walk away, wipe my hands clean and be done with it? Is this a self-respect thing? Fighting for my sense of self and my own self-respect?
Literally, I cannot let something go until I've said it all, and I will hold onto an abusive relationship LONG after it's ended, emotionally and mentally, until I feel I have said my peace and have put that person in their place.
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I just posted about this actually. I did "stand up" to my abuser, and got abusive in turn. In every way I could, because he was hurting me so badly. I won't lie that along with that sickening, horrible feeling of wrongness I felt partially good for standing up for myself finally. Even though I know it was so wrong.
I think its normal to want to stand up for yourself, to show that person that you cannot be taken advantage of anymore, and save any dignity you can.
But it's just not worth it to fight back, and sink down to their level. Take it from me. The best thing you can do is move on and be happy, and take away their power.
I just wish it was as easy to do as it sounds
