I take a walk, row my canoe on the lake, pet and brush my dogs, drink a glass of lemonade, spend time reading or playing or other activities with my children and wife....

my point is I find what normally comforts and relaxes me and write them on a list that I keep posted on the fridge and a copy in my wallet, then i just work my way down the list... if its not something that is normally relaxing and comforting to me then its not going to be relaxing and comforting during crisis situations.

suggestion ... maybe during times when you are just watching tv or other wise ok sit down and write a list of things you like to do, what you like to eat, what you like for music.... what things normally give you a sense of fun, enjoyment, happiness, comfort. then when in crisis just work your way down the list. my own list is 485 things I enjoy doing, listening to, eating, watching, touching, smelling.....