Thank you all for your posts. I am actually a counselor in training, and so I have attempted to be patient while I wait for him to open up, basically being as supportive and available as I can for him. But he needs more help than I can give him.

He doesn't know who he is, what he wants, or even how to love. After two years of me trying and getting hurt, we agreed it was better to be apart. He cares about me, but he doesn't allow himself to love because he is afraid of getting hurt. I have done all I can for him because I truly believed in him and loved him, but I can't go on hurting.

I recently found out that he does not even really believe in himself, and doesn't even think he can change. He doesn't see himself in a relationship forever because he can't trust anyone to let them in to stay that long. Any person who opens up to him, he pushes away and hurts them because he is protecting himself. He needs counseling and I need to get away before he hurts me more.

I really thought he was the one for me, but I see now that I need someone who is capable of loving me and being open.

I do realize that he needed me in his life to show him what love really is and show him he's worth loving. I wish nothing but the best for him, but unfortunately, I need to start moving on with my life and begin making it about me. I need to find a man who could see a future with us, or at least doesn't mind thinking about getting married.

I still want to be a support for him, but I need to spend time for me moving on and letting go. If you have any ideas on how to be supportive from a distance, I would definately appreciate it.

Thanks!