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Old Feb 14, 2008, 06:40 PM
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I think its in "The Rock" where they say "you're on a need to know basis, and you don't need to know."

Split, you're sober now. So does the past drinking really matter in the current situation? Yes, you lost your last job because you were a drinker. WERE a drinker. Wouldn't it more dishonest if they had in their head that you are a problem drinker? Now, if you still drank, then yes, it would be dishonest not to clue them into why you lost your last job. But you're a different person. There was the person who drank, and now the person who is sober. So does it matter that they don't know you used to drink?

I'm in the same boat. My job knows nothing about my multiple sclerosis. When asked what I did with my time off, I said I took care of Grandma, which is true. Yes, I was also disabled at the time, but I'm not any more, so they don't need to know that. My MS is in remission, just like our alcoholism.

Stigmas suck, yes. Unfortunately we're powerless over that. Your higher power wants you to be employed and happy. So the words came out of your mouth that were supposed to come out of your mouth.

You're no longer a problem drinker. Thats the main point here. These people have met the sober you and thats what matters. The past is the past. We don't regret it or shut the door on it, but we don't have to scream it from the rafters either. Thats for meetings and time with friends.

So don't look at it as dishonesty. You just omitted something that's no one's damn business.

Good luck to you! I hope you get it!
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