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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I guess they said, “If you crack up again, we won’t be there to support you.” This is what the OP must mean by “disowned”.
To me, “disowned” is a perfectly normal threat in my family. To me it means to never speak again and cut you out of the Will. My mother has disowned me several times when I did something she did not like. It’s a Narcissist tactic.
What is selfish about your leaving? Sometimes it’s ok to be selfish. You need to give your life priority.
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I guess I read things too literally in that they said if the op has another breakdown they aren't going to be there but that, to me is not being disowned. Disowned literally to cut off completely and not acknowledging one as a family member any longer which to me is a far cry from saying that they won't support you in certain events.
This goes further to imply that their frustration is not entirely about her being selfish but about how they do not feel she is ready to be on her own and fear that she cannot take care of herself yet on her own.
Keep in mind that even if the OP is being honest with us it is through their filter and how they are interpreting converstations with the family. I believe there is far more to this explanation that has been given here.
I turn to the OP now. So in light of what I've just said what is being left out, if anything? I feel that you may be up in arms about this simply for the fact that it feels like people trying to make you do what they want but is that clouding your vision? Is there any truth to the idea that maybe there is more to this that has to do with you being ready to move out on your own? Mind you I am not making judgments about whether you are or not, whether your family may be right or not or handling it correctly but I am saying, if you step back 10 paces and look at the bigger picture, is there more to this? Is there validity to their worries if that is what it's about?