I am seeing one, actually, which has been such a relief. She told me very similar things. I actually had the courage to do an activity with friends instead of with him, even though he wanted me to join... but they were friends I NEVER get to see anymore, and I totally made the right choice. Of course, I was worried what the consequences would be, which detracted from the experience, but I suppose that's a big step for me.

To boot, bf wasn't upset (maybe a bit bummed out), and I had a worthwhile time.

My therapist also warned that if I don't address these soon, I'll build up resentment towards him... for not having the freedom I want. Most of his day is alone time while I barely get any, even though I feel like I need it more.