Dive bars, head shops, small businesses where they don’t care if you are silly and cuss a little. They won’t call it “acting out”. They don’t give a damn as long as you do your job. And if you start the creepy stalking behavior they’ll tell you to knock it off or just fire you, maybe they’ll even get rough with you.

I think you are not being truthful with yourself as to your motives for the acting out and stalking. You have a mischievous nature and like to push people’s buttons. I’m sticking to my theory about negative attention.

My niece has BPD and ADHD. My sister is her enabler. She hasn’t had to grow up because my sister supports her. She hasn’t engaged in adult life yet at 29.