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Originally Posted by raging vortex
because I'm...
"not stable enough"
that hurts right now- I do understand where they are coming from, I do. a lot of the members in the group want to get better and want to live their lives..... me not so much.
but it hurts and it spoiled an okayish evening
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I have been kicked out of DID groups for being too mentally ill and have been kicked out for being too healed. I have been kicked out of groups because of my profession and kicked out of groups for not posting from my profession.. I have been kicked out of groups for using laymans term and kicked out of groups for using politically correct, mentally and physically correct phrases and terms, i have even gotten kicked out of groups for using the same wording and phrasing as others in the group were using rather than my own list of vocabulary words....LMAO
what I learned is you just cant win or please everyone when online, all you can do is be yourself and if others dont accept you for how ever who ever you are its their loss.
one thing that I do first thing when in any kind of groups is find out what their equivalent of the ignore feature is and their pm system is. (even emails have a way to block, and choose who you have contact with)
this way I can continue being who and what I am and those who do not like me, my posts and such can place me on their blocking/ ignoring. if they have told me they find my posts to be offending in some way such as too professional, not professional enough , too politically correct, not politically correct enough, too cold and uncaring, too warm and caring .... you get the idea....if they even though they find something wrong with me and my posts, emails and such and they wish to continue, i place them on my ignore/ blocking... this way their problem doesnt become my problem.
I also feel out those who are like me and my problems and take them to less active avenues so that my problems do not interfere or cause others not like me, not at my stage of healing and such to have more problems...I post to help other publicly and get my own support with select members privately.
doing things this way has helped limit how many times I get booted from an online group.
maybe you can find another online emailing group and do things like that. select those that are on the same healing path that you are and are at your same healing level. when you do find those people focus your gaining support for you on those people and offer general support for others that are not where you are at.