I think some terms used about people with MI can certainly be abusive, sadly

If someone called me happy, I’d think my “mask” was working

I’ve certainly been called “worse” things . But I do understand it is very invalidating when someone who is supposedly of at least “average intelligence” completely misunderstands us. in some cases it can be deliberate, imo, that misunderstanding Some burocrassys for example . I never learnt how to spell that word