in the early days of therapy with my ex-T, i noticed him running his fingers through his hair quite a few times during different sessions. and during these brief moments, i experienced it as if i was seeing a 'younger' version (teenage?) of my T and, just for that moment, i could sense he was not really fully in the 'T zone'. to me, it seemed more like a nervous reaction or thought to what i had been discussing at the time and it seemed almost innocently flirtatious in nature too. i am not sure if he really was aware that he was dong it, but it did make me wonder if he was having some kind of 'erotic' counter transference towards me.