DJR450, welcome to the bipolar board. Unfortunately this is kind of a game thread and I don't know how many responses you'll get here. You may be better off copying and pasting this into a new post and starting a new thread entirely for this.

I'm sorry I don't have a lot of advice; marriage is not something I have experienced. I can tell though that you are very frustrated and it sounds like you need to vent and this is a great place for it, just maybe not this thread.