I read your whole post and don't really have suggestions. I'm single and semi-retired, but I think I'd move to Europe in a heartbeat, given the opportunity. I hope that works out for you two. I also think that living in a tiny house would be WAY fun.

But anyway, I thought your statement above was interesting. I also have BPI, but I've never been on a spending spree which is so characteristic of bipolar behavior. I've bought lots of new cars but could always afford them, so I wouldn't consider that excessive. I have a budget, and I live within my budget. Simple. I love online shopping, but I've learned that spending generates a bill, and I have to pay the bill. I make great sacrifices to ensure that my credit rating is sterling. This is an obsession with me, and if I had a husband spending money on unnecessary items, it would drive me to distraction. I figure if I run out of money one day, I can at least prove that there was a time when I paid my debts in a timely fashion.

So sorry that your trip last month went badly.