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Originally Posted by SalingerEsme
I'm still really interested in the relationship between keeping MC's message as a sort of transitional object, and your T's struggle with transitional objects. It might be a clue to why he didn't want you to play it?
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Yeah, this is one of the topics I wanted to bring up--how I felt shut down about wanting to play that. OK, maybe he didn't see the therapeutic value, but if I did, isn't that what matters? I mean, within reason--if I just wanted to spend the whole session watching a movie, that seems kind of pointless. Well, unless it was a movie that had particular meaning to me and I wanted him to understand it. (Incidentally, it's funny that you mentioned "sex, lies, and videotape" in your other post, as that's one of my favorite movies, and I referenced it once to T, but he hadn't seen it.) Anyway, he had said it was totally fine that I reread some of his past e-mails to me, but maybe a voicemail is a bit different? (I don't have any voicemails from T--he's never left me a message.)
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He wants to be a facilitator between you and your outside life, and not have too an intense a capital R relationship like in psychoanalytic analysis or attachment theory.
I do think he is trying to stretch there, toward you, but it isn't innate to the way he conceptualizes his overall practice with clients.
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I do feel like he's trying, like you said. I think he's just not comfortable with it. I think part of that is personal discomfort, but maybe he's also afraid he's going to screw it all up since he's not experienced in it (so I guess professional discomfort?)
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Just a side note, my T is a whole lot like yours, but I don't push him as much - like I just wouldn't dare ask for an object , lol.
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Yeah, I wouldn't recommend asking yours for an object!
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He seems to have a genuine interest in and regard for you.
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I feel that way, too. If I didn't feel that, I'd have stopped going. He seems at times intrigued by me, other times completely baffled by me. But I also feel like he seems to genuinely care, that he wants to help me, that he fears letting me get attached (well, more than I already am!) will hurt me. So he's trying to figure out how to handle things, screwing up some along the way. As he's said, he's feeling this out along with me. So I'm just trying to give him a bit more time.