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Originally Posted by unaluna
I would ask him, what is his plan. Cuz my ts, they didnt have a plan - they were like, come in, we talk, the relationship is my plan. Fine. I could see progress and changes, and i read up on the process, so i was good with that.
But your t doesnt seem to be doing that, correct? You have a few lists of stuff - it seems like he HAS a plan. Now that you know each other a little better - like youve navigated your way out of this huge parking structure - what road are you going to take?
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Hm, that's a good point. Because ex-T and ex-MC, they didn't really seem to have a plan (certainly not ex-MC!) Well, ex-T kind of did in the beginning, like stuff about exposure therapy for some elements of my OCD, but that all got derailed at some point...maybe when H's friend passed away? (It was pre-marriage counseling, so it wasn't anything related to ex-MC.) And then it was like we were going forward without a plan.
Part of what I like about current T is that he seems to have a vision for what he hopes I could become--and his having that vision makes me feel like he has faith in me that I can get there. He'll say things like, "What I hope for you is..." And talks about working together to get there.