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Originally Posted by ruh roh
I think it's interesting that he didn't want to listen to the voice message. Did he think it would keep you in emotional pain? Something else?
I don't even have to wonder if mine would listen. She'd listen to, look at, read just about anything, probably to see if I am reacting out of my own issues or something else. I love to share those sorts of things because they are validating in a way to say, see? I told you that so and so was harsh.
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I have no idea. I would have maybe felt differently if he'd say, "I'm concerned it would hurt you more" or something like that, but the way he presented it, it felt like he didn't see the purpose to doing it at all. Like he thought it was more of a pointless idea than a bad one. I may ask him tomorrow, not sure.
Your second comment made me think about how once I asked if it could be helpful to show him pictures, possibly older ones, but then I also said maybe current ones so he'd have a visual if I was talking about, say, H or my parents. He was like, "Not really." And I was kind of just like "Oh. OK." Since I had shared some pics with ex-T. I think I have shown current T my D once, and I've wanted to share other pics of her, but wasn't sure if that would be weird at all.
That's good that your T is willing to look at/listen to anything you'd share. Like you said, I'm sure it's serving *some* purpose for you, even if she doesn't fully understand what it is. Or even if you don't know why. Sometimes it's like you have to just shake the tree to see what falls out.