BrnEyedGrl,

Is he the type that would harrass you even if you left? I know that being on your own raising a child is scary but you're swimming up stream right now with a weight around your neck. Do you have family that you can stay with until you pick up the pieces of your life? Think of a typical day, subtract from it all of the negativity that he brings into your life, would that be a better day?

I know I sound like a broken record (cd to the younger crowd) but I think that people give up on their relationships entirely too easy. The only exception to that oddly is when the relationship is abusive. I do not recommend leaving your spouse lightly.

So here's the questions that you've got to ask yourself. Would your life better off without him? Do you want your son growing up thinking that what he sees is how a relationship should be?

What is the one thing that frightens you so much that you'd rather stay than leave? Is it worse than being in an abusive relationship? You won't be alone forever, and next time you'll see the warning signs!

I'm from Michigan originally myself. There used to be programs out there to help you get back on your feet. If there isn't family around to help, go to a shelter, they'll point you in the right direction.